I wanted a church girl!

Today, I ran into this girl. She was one of those round the way nice ghetto girls. You could tell she had it in her to act up but she was keeping it calm cool and collected! She had dreads that was freshly done. She was skinny, like near half my size! I'm about a 34 waist on a bad day! So she was bony and looking good! She was beautiful! I was intimidated!

I've never approached a girl outside of church. Being in the church, at least you know they are aware of their morals, even if they don't display them on a regular basis. You know how church people can be, especially the PK's! I didn't really know how to start off anything with her! I said hello, but couldn't redirect anything past general conversation. I'm such a punk! lol

How do you talk to people? How do you recognize flirting? How do you effectively flirt with women? Never really done this. What do women typically wish to see or get from a man who is flirting? I did notice no wedding ring but she said she mentioned she can't stay married for more than two years. Hmmm I don't know how to feel about that!

Can someone shed some insight on this?

I can't believe this!

This woman, or girl or whatever you wish to call her, let me tell you about HER! I can't take it! This is why so many ::breathes:: freakin women are single! I gotta give out the story because this one left me heated and scratching my head and confused at the same time!

I went out on a double date with a friend of mine from back in the day. We just caught a movie and dinner afterwards. We weren't hungry beforehand! So, at dinner, the subject of kids came up. The other couple were engaged and expecting twins in about 3 months, I believe. I noticed a pig shaped snout when the subject arose from my date. I ask her what she felt about having kids. She strongly disagreed! I asked even if she was married? She sternly dismissed any remote possibility of conceiving. Stab one!

I am at that checkpoint in my life where if things are not aligning with my personal goals and long-term goals, I dismiss them. If things are not going to fit, why keep things around if they will hinder or not conform to your dreams and aspirations?

I thought to myself well I don't really need kids, and she may turn her way of thinking in the future. I asked about how she felt about marriage. Knowing a lil about her family, she is no poor girl! I brought up the idea of a prenup. I am all for one protecting what they have, don't get me wrong! Just not in any marriage of mine. I will not have any kind of prenup restricting the limits of my marriage. That is entering with a fail safe plan! I'm entering with a success plan! The appetizer hadn't yet come out yet and I was over this date.

I dropped her off home and she could tell I was bothered and upset. No invite in this time, or none that I paid attention to! I drove home and sat and then my phone rang. It was her. She asked what was bothering me and I told her all what was on my mind. She was steadfast and unmovable in her views and I was not going to sacrifice. I bid her goodnight and I left no indication that there would be a 3rd date.

Was it me that missed out or was it her? Was it me that limited myself or was it her that shortchanged herself? Why is it women want a good man that has their things together and they are not willing to do what it takes to keep him. Why is it there are so many women in the world and there are so many problems that men come across when trying to find one? I really can't understand!

Let me be real!

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